Lies and Coverups

I came across a surprising revelation that took years to develop and manage until its death a few months ago. Its called a "true friendship". Surprising and hurtful yet revealing to what degrees people will go to coverup who they really are. Surprising again that my friend would cutoff 100% contact with me after I discovered that alot of his/her life was a fraud.

As a professional life and business coach, I assist people everyday to go from the extreme of coverup to true life revelation being able to live with themselves in a positive and safe environment. But when I was "snowed" over a period of years, wow, what a surprise. Should I have seen this coming? Sad not for me but for my "true friend" to loose a wonderful, open and caring relationship ...and a professional coach to help them to boot.

Lies and coverups take many directions. This is an exhausting way to live as you need to keep an account of who you told what to and why. Also, if there are fictitious people involved, to get their names and life experiences straight. I can't imagine living inside of this box. Bouncing around from one story to the next. The brain is in constant motion and thinking and clarity are skewed. There is no peace inside of yourself, your job or your relationships.

The friendship ended abruptly by my friend after I discovered the truth. I became a mirror to him/her of their real life truth and the extent of the spider web that they had weaved themselves into. Sad, since I had no intention of leaving the friendship but it was out of my control. Instead of my not wanting to have anything to do with them it was the other way around.

Lies and coverups take mental and physical energy from us and everyone else who is involved. They create a life of illusion and importance in which you are its king or queen. You will bow down to this life and be its slave the longer it continues. And with no easy way out, you become its castle to live in.

My advice to you as a life coach is, to identify your lies and coverups and begin to live a real and authentic life. You will be surprised at how people will forgive you and still want to maintain a relationship for the real you and your real life. You will find that you don't have to measure up to anyone but your own standards. If you haven't reached your "standard success", a coach, like myself, is able to help you reach whatever success you desire in life. Whether it be relationships, community, career or personal goals.

Don't live a life of lies and coverups to please other peoples standards or a part of our society that says we need to be this way or that. Be yourself with your own unique talents and abilities or get help in moving towards getting them.

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